It's Not Cool, It's Rude

Yesterday’s post was about politeness. It was not by coincidence.

Lately, I am observing more and more a lack of politeness and manners in many behaviors.

I watch people that hold positions of power treat anyone they view as holding an “inferior” position aggressively, as if their title automatically entitles them to be arrogant and offensive.

I watch people talk in a way that they think is cool or direct, when in reality, they are just being rude.

I watch people practice violent communication without a second thought, thinking that they are smart and eloquent, when they are just insulting and bad mannered.

I see it everyday and everywhere. News, tv interviews, social media, even professional interactions.  We have become so accustomed to it, we do not even notice. 

All kind of leaders show the way to it. “Noblesse oblige”, say the French, “or superior advantages bind you to larger generosity” (Ralph Waldo Emerson).

Good manners are not a sign of weakness. Politeness, genteelness are signs of a decent, civilized human being.

If you are a leader – or want to call yourself that – more so: practice respectful, non-violent, mannerly communication. It is part of your larger generosity and responsibility.